- Hello, lovely students, and welcome back to, English with Lucy.
- Xin chào các học viên thân mến, và chào mừng bạn đã quay trở lại với English with Lucy.
Today's lesson is all about how to master the art of English conversation.
Bài học hôm nay hoàn toàn xoay quanh cách làm chủ nghệ thuật hội thoại tiếng Anh.
It can feel extremely awkward to start conversations in social situations where you don't know anyone, and it can feel even worse when it's not your mother tongue or your first language.
Việc bắt đầu trò chuyện trong các tình huống xã hội khi bạn không quen biết ai có thể cảm thấy cực kỳ lúng túng, và nó thậm chí còn tệ hơn nữa khi đó không phải là ngôn ngữ mẹ đẻ hay ngôn ngữ đầu tiên của bạn.
To help you out, I'm going to give you some of the best conversation starters that I use so you can feel confident and talk to anyone in any situation.
Để giúp bạn, tôi sẽ chia sẻ một số cách mở đầu cuộc trò chuyện tốt nhất mà tôi sử dụng, để bạn có thể tự tin và trò chuyện với bất kỳ ai trong mọi tình huống.
Important, if you really want to take the subject seriously, don't miss out on the free PDF that I've created for today.
Quan trọng là, nếu bạn thực sự muốn nghiêm túc với chủ đề này, đừng bỏ lỡ tệp PDF miễn phí mà tôi đã tạo riêng cho bài học hôm nay.
It covers all of the conversation starters and explanations, plus some other tips that I think you'll find really useful.
Nó bao gồm tất cả các cách mở đầu cuộc trò chuyện và giải thích, cùng với một số mẹo khác mà tôi nghĩ bạn sẽ thấy rất hữu ích.
If you'd like to download that, just click on the link in the description box.
Nếu bạn muốn tải xuống, chỉ cần nhấp vào liên kết trong hộp mô tả.
You sign up to my mailing list by entering your name and your email address.
Bạn đăng ký danh sách gửi thư của tôi bằng cách nhập tên và địa chỉ email của mình.
This PDF will arrive directly in your inbox and then automatically after that you will receive my free weekly PDFs alongside my news, course updates, and offers.
Tệp PDF này sẽ được gửi trực tiếp đến hộp thư đến của bạn, và sau đó tự động, bạn sẽ nhận được các tệp PDF miễn phí hàng tuần của tôi cùng với tin tức, cập nhật khóa học và ưu đãi của tôi.
It's a free service and you can unsubscribe at any time.
Đây là dịch vụ miễn phí và bạn có thể hủy đăng ký bất cứ lúc nào.
So let's start with our first topic.
Vậy hãy bắt đầu với chủ đề đầu tiên của chúng ta.
Keep it simple!
保持简单！
If you are someone who typically feels uncomfortable making small talk, feel free to keep things simple.
如果你通常觉得进行日常闲聊会感到不自在，不妨让对话保持简单。
Câu trích dẫn nổi bật You don't need to come up with any out-of-the-box questions.
你不需要想出任何标新立异的问题。
Just be yourself.
做你自己就好。
A great way to kick off any conversation is with a sincere greeting and introduction, for example, "Hi, I'm Lucy.
开启任何对话的一个好方法是真诚地问候并自我介绍，例如，“嗨，我是露西。
It's a pleasure to meet you."
很高兴认识你。”
It's simple but effective, and it's great for social events where you don't know many people.
这很简单但很有效，非常适合你不认识太多人的社交场合。
At work you could say, "Hello, I'm Lucy.
在工作中你可以说，“你好，我是露西。
I just started in the marketing department.
我刚刚加入市场部。
I just wanted to stop by and introduce myself."
我只是想顺便过来介绍一下自己。”
This is great for when you've started a new position and don't know many of your colleagues yet.
当你刚开始一个新职位，还不认识很多同事时，这非常适用。
It shows that you have a genuine interest in meeting the people you might be working with.
这表明你对结识未来可能共事的人有着真正的兴趣。
There are many simple questions you could ask to get a conversation going after you've introduced yourself like, "What do you do for work?
自我介绍后，你可以问许多简单的问题来开启对话，比如，“你是做什么工作的？
Have you read any good books lately?
最近有读什么好书吗？
What have you been up to today?
今天过得怎么样？
What's the last show you binged, you consumed quickly all at once?
你最近一口气刷完的最后一部剧是什么？
Do you have any travel plans coming up?"
接下来有什么旅行计划吗？”
Now, obviously it's important to be aware of the situation.
现在，显然重要的是要意识到所处的环境。
Câu trích dẫn nổi bật Don't just randomly throw out these questions.
不要随机抛出这些问题。
Read the room and make sure you're listening to what other people are saying so that you can ask appropriate questions at the right time.
观察现场氛围，确保你在倾听别人在说什么，以便在合适的时间提出恰当的问题。
Next point, if you're ready to branch out for some of the more simple conversation starters, one of the best things that you can do to instantly strike up conversation is to give a genuine compliment.
下一个要点，如果你准备好尝试一些更简单的开场白，那么能立刻开启对话的最佳方法之一就是给予真诚的赞美。
Compliments help make a person feel appreciated and seen, and they are great for instantly making a good impression and building rapport.
赞美能帮助一个人感到被欣赏和被关注，它们对于瞬间留下好印象和建立融洽关系非常有用。
And it doesn't need to be some over-the-top compliment or one that has the potential to make the other person feel awkward.
而且它不需要是那种夸张过头的赞美，或者那种可能会让对方感到尴尬的赞美。
Just give a genuine compliment, and flash a bright, cheerful smile.
只需给予真诚的赞美，并展露出明亮、愉快的微笑。
Not a crazy one.
不是那种疯狂的笑容。
The beauty of this technique is that it works in basically any scenario, whether you're at a party or in a job interview.
这项技巧的美妙之处在于它几乎适用于任何场景，无论你在派对上还是在求职面试中。
At a party or another social gathering, you could say something like, "I love how you've decorated your house.
在派对或其他社交聚会上，你可以说类似这样的话，“我喜欢你把房子装饰得这么漂亮。
It feels so cosy."
感觉太温馨了。”
Or, "I'm obsessed with your earrings."
或者，“我迷上了你的耳环。”
Or, "Wow, your shoes are gorgeous!
或者，“哇，你的鞋子真漂亮！
Where'd you get them?"
你在哪买的？”
Asking a question at the end helps to keep the conversation flowing.
在结尾处提问有助于保持对话的流畅性。
At the office, you could say something along the lines of, "Your work always shows so much attention to detail.
在办公室里，你可以说类似这样的话，“你的工作总是显示出对细节的高度关注。
How do you do it?"
你是怎么做到的？”
Câu trích dẫn nổi bật Or, "That was a really great question you brought up in the meeting today."
或者，"你今天在会议上提出的那个问题真的很好。"
If you're at a conference or a networking event, you could say, "You have an excellent way with words, it was a pleasure to hear you speak."
如果你正在参加一个会议或社交活动，你可以说："你的口才非常好，很高兴听到你的发言。"
Practise giving heartfelt compliments, and see how many new friends you instantly make.
练习给予真诚的赞美，看看你能立刻交到多少新朋友。
Next point, when in doubt, talk about food.
接下来一点，如果拿不准说什么，就聊聊食物吧。
This one might seem odd, but if you have doubts about what to say in a social setting, just talk about food or drinks.
这听起来可能有点奇怪，但如果你在社交场合不知道说什么好，就聊聊食物或饮料。
Think about it, everyone has to eat or drink, and so it's something common that we all share.
想想看，每个人都要吃喝，所以这是我们所有人都共有的话题。
And the beauty of this topic is that it works in nearly all situations.
这个话题的好处在于它几乎适用于所有情况。
At a party, "Where did you get that drink?
在聚会上，你可以问："那杯饮料是在哪里买的？"
It looks amazing."
看起来太棒了。"
Or, "You have to try the spinach dip.
或者，"你一定要尝尝这个菠菜蘸酱。"
It's delicious, definitely my favourite so far."
味道很美味，绝对是我目前最喜欢的。"
Or, "Have you tried any of the appetisers?
或者，"你尝过任何开胃菜吗？"
Any recommendations?"
有什么推荐吗？"
I tend to hold pretty strong opinions about food, so if someone were to ask me some of these, we would talk all night.
我对食物通常有相当强烈的看法，所以如果有人问我这些问题，我们会聊上一整晚。
Now, let's say you're in a more professional setting.
现在，假设你处于一个更专业的环境中。
You could ask something like, "Do you have a go-to spot to grab a coffee round here?"
你可以问类似这样的话："这附近有你常去的喝咖啡的地方吗？"
Or, "Hi, I'm Lucy.
或者，"嗨，我是露西。"
Today's my first day, and I was wondering if you have any recommendations of where to get a quick bite to eat."
今天是我第一天上班，我在想你是否能推荐一些可以快速吃点东西的地方。"
Just then I introduced myself and brought up food, the perfect conversation starter.
刚才我介绍了自己并提到了食物，这是一个完美的破冰话题。
Now, you could even use this food idea on a first date.
现在，你甚至可以在第一次约会时使用这个关于食物的想法。
If there's a bit of a dull moment during the conversation, you could say something like, "So, I'm a bit of a foodie, how about you?
如果谈话中出现了一点冷场，你可以说类似这样的话："嗯，我是个美食爱好者，你呢？"
Do you have a favourite type of cuisine or any must-try restaurants in town?"
你有喜欢的菜系类型或者镇上必去的餐厅吗？"
I know, I asked quite a few questions, but one of them is sure to get the conversation flowing again.
我知道，我问了不少问题，但其中肯定有一个能让对话重新流动起来。
I also shared a little piece of personal information about myself there, which brings us to our next topic.
我还分享了一些关于我自己的个人信息，这就引出了我们的下一个话题。
Câu trích dẫn nổi bật Make it personal!
让谈话变得个性化！
If you want to connect with people, you need to speak from a place of authenticity.
如果你想与人建立联系，你需要真诚地表达。
And you can do this by sharing something interesting about yourself, like telling a little anecdote or even cracking a few jokes, maybe a few self-deprecating ones, a Brit's favourite weapon.
你可以通过分享一些关于自己的有趣事情来做到这一点，比如讲一个小轶事，甚至开几个玩笑，也许是一些自嘲式的幽默，这是英国人最喜爱的武器。
If you're interested in British humour, I made a video all about it and I've linked it down below.
如果你对英式幽默感兴趣，我做了一个专门介绍它的视频，链接在下面。
"Yikes, I can't believe how underdressed I am for this event!"
"哎呀，我真不敢相信我穿得这么随便就来参加这个活动了！"
A comment like this can break the ice, and show you're quite humble.
这样的评论可以打破僵局，并显示你很谦逊。
But you don't necessarily have to go down that route.
但你不一定非要走这条路。
Anecdotes are also great, and these are personal stories or experiences that can add depth and relatability to a conversation and bonus points if they're funny.
轶事（趣闻）也非常棒，这些个人故事或经历能为对话增添深度和共鸣感，如果有趣的话更是锦上添花。
Here are some examples of some types of anecdotes you could share.
以下是一些你可以分享的轶事类型示例。
"Speaking of hiking, I went hiking near here last weekend, and the views were incredible.
"说到徒步旅行，我上周末在附近去徒步了，那里的风景令人惊叹。"
Where do you usually go?"
你通常去哪里徒步？"
Or, "You mentioned you tried making Gordon Ramsey's scrambled eggs.
或者，"你提到你尝试做戈登·拉姆齐的炒蛋。"
Me too, and they came out terribly, but I'm eager to try them again.
我也试过，结果做得很糟糕，但我迫不及待想再试一次。
Do you have any tips?"
你有什么建议吗？"
Notice that I'm providing some personal insight, but I'm also asking questions showing my conversation partner that I'm actively listening to what they're saying.
请注意，我在分享一些个人见解的同时，也在提问，这表明我的对话伙伴我正在积极倾听他们所说的话。
You should also try to find common ground.
你还应该尝试寻找共同点。
What shared interests do you have?
你们有哪些共同的兴趣？
Do you work in the same field?
你们从事同一个领域的工作吗？
One of the easiest ways to start a meaningful conversation, is to talk about things you have in common, like in the office, "I heard you've just been to Costa Rica.
开启有意义对话的最简单方法之一，就是谈论你们共同的话题，比如在办公室里，"我听说你刚去过哥斯达黎加。"
I actually lived there for five years.
我实际上在那里住了五年。
How was it?"
感觉怎么样？"
Or on a plane, if they want to talk, "I see you're reading Hemingway.
或者在飞机上，如果对方想聊天，"我看到你在读海明威的书。"
He's my favourite author.
他是我最喜欢的作家。
Have you read any of his other books?"
你读过他的其他书吗？"
Or a work event, "What programmes do you recommend for continuing education in software engineering?"
或者在工作活动上，"你推荐哪些软件工程的继续教育课程？"
These questions are quite specific, and require strong observational skills, but with practise, you'll be having conversations everywhere.
这些问题非常具体，需要很强的观察力，但通过练习，你将能在任何地方进行对话。
And that brings us to our next topic.
这就引出了我们的下一个话题。
Asking questions!
提问！
If you haven't been able to tell by now, asking questions is quite important.
如果到现在你还没看出来，提问是非常重要的。
By asking questions, you show the speaker that you're genuinely interested in what they're saying.
通过提问，你向说话者表明你对他们所说的内容真正感兴趣。
It's important to ask open questions that can't be answered with a yes or a no, so that you can then ask follow-up questions.
重要的是要提出开放式问题，即不能用“是”或“否”来回答的问题，这样你就可以接着问后续问题。
This will ensure that you have a natural, flowing conversation.
这将确保你的对话自然流畅。
Here are some different questions for various scenarios.
这里有一些针对不同场景的问题。
For example, at work, "What are you working on right now?
例如，在工作中，“你现在正在忙什么？
Anything exciting?"
有什么令人兴奋的事吗？”
Or, "What are your plans for this weekend?
或者，“你这个周末有什么计划？
What's the best part of your job?
你工作中最棒的部分是什么？
How has AI been impacting your job?"
人工智能是如何影响你的工作的？”
Dating, "What helps you relax after a long day?
约会时，“漫长的一天后，什么能让你放松下来？
What do you do for fun?
你平时喜欢做什么娱乐活动？
What's your biggest pet peeve?
你最不能忍受的缺点是什么？
What's the craziest thing you've ever done?"
你做过的最疯狂的事情是什么？”
In networking or business conferences, "Which presentations have you enjoyed so far?
在社交或商务会议上，“到目前为止，你喜欢哪些演讲？
Why did you sign up for this conference?
你为什么报名参加这次会议？
If you had to give a talk here, what would your topic be?
如果你必须在这里发表演讲，你的主题会是什么？
What other workshops have you attended?
你还参加过其他哪些研讨会？
Any you recommend?"
有推荐的吗？”
All of these questions help you come off as being interested in the person you're conversing with and they have the potential to spark some interesting conversations.
所有这些问题的目的都是让你表现出对交谈对象的兴趣，并且它们有可能引发一些有趣的对话。
And this brings me to my last tip of the day.
接下来是我今天的最后一个建议。
Sit back and listen!
退后一步，专心倾听！
This doesn't require much talking at all.
这根本不需要你说太多话。
One of the biggest misconceptions about conversing is that you need to do all the talking, and that's not entirely true.
关于交谈最大的误解之一就是你必须一直说话，但这并不完全正确。
In fact, if you go on, and on, and on, you might end up seeming self-absorbed.
事实上，如果你喋喋不休、没完没了，你可能会显得以自我为中心。
I've experienced lots of conversations like this at networking events.
我在社交活动中经历过很多这样的对话。
Starting a conversation with a stranger isn't always easy, and I understand your worries about stumbling over words or dealing with those cringe-worthy, awkward silences, but here's a neat trick to ease the pressure.
与陌生人开启对话并不总是那么容易，我理解你担心口吃或陷入那些令人尴尬的沉默，但这里有一个缓解压力的小窍门。
Shift your focus to the other person.
将你的注意力转移到对方身上。
After breaking the ice, it's all about asking follow-up questions throughout the conversation.
破冰之后，关键在于在整个对话过程中提出跟进问题。
Trust me, this can lead to more engaging discussions than if you spent the whole time talking about yourself.
相信我，这比你一直谈论自己能带来更引人入胜的讨论。
Show genuine interest and curiosity in the other person, make them feel interesting.
对他人表现出真诚的兴趣和好奇心，让他们觉得自己很有趣。
You can ask some of the questions I previously shared with you, but the key is to listen to the speaker.
你可以问我之前分享过的一些问题，但关键是要倾听说话者。
So, these simple skills can work wonders, and soon enough you'll be making meaningful connections with people, and the more you practise, the better you'll get at it.
因此，这些简单的技巧可以产生奇妙的效果，很快你就能与他人建立有意义的联系，而且你练习得越多，就会做得越好。
Give it a shot.
试一试吧。
Put yourself in some uncomfortable situations, and who knows, you might make some great new friends along the way.
让自己置身于一些不舒服的情境中，谁知道呢，你可能在这个过程中交到一些很棒的新朋友。
I've met some of my best friends by pushing myself out of my comfort zone.
我是通过走出舒适区才遇到我最好的朋友的。
Right, that brings us to the end of today's lesson.
好了，这就结束了今天课程的内容。
Don't forget to download the free PDF.
别忘了下载免费的 PDF。
The link is in the description box.
链接在描述框里。
We've got all of the tips plus some extra information I think you'll find really useful.
我们包含了所有的建议以及一些我认为你会觉得很有用的额外信息。
If you want to take an English course with me, we have our 12 week, B1, B2, and C1, "Beautiful British English" programmes.
如果你想跟我学习英语课程，我们有为期 12 周的 B1、B2 和 C1 “美丽英式英语” 课程。
I'm extremely biassed, but they are truly wonderful.
我可能有些偏见，但它们确实非常棒。
(chuckles) If you'd like to learn more, visit englishwithlucy.com.
(轻笑) 如果你想了解更多，请访问 englishwithlucy.com。
And I'll see you in my next lesson.
我们在下一节课见。
Mwah!
么么哒！
(upbeat music)
(欢快的音乐)
(upbeat music continues)
(欢快的音乐继续播放)
